We have our mug verses. Jeremiah 29:11. Philippians 4:13. Great verses.
This one doesn't usually get put on a mug:
"Women should remain silent in the churches. They are not allowed to speak, but must be in submission, as the law says." (1 Corinthians 14:34)
It gets abused from a couple of different sides. One side uses it to silence women. Another side uses it to silence the Bible: look at Paul, he's sexist, throw it all away. And a lot of people are in the middle, not sure what to do with it.
Let's be honest. This is a difficult passage to understand. But once we put it in context, it gets easier.
We're walking in on a conversation
Paul planted the church in Corinth and lived there about 18 months. When we read his letters, we're coming in on the middle of a conversation. He'd already written them a letter we don't have (1 Corinthians 5:9). They wrote him back with questions (7:1). We don't have that one either.
It's like there's a phone conversation going on and you walk in on the middle of it. You're only hearing one side.
So the first question is not, what's wrong with Paul? The question is, what's going on in Corinth?
And here's what we do know about Paul. His ministry was full of women. Phoebe, who carried the letter to the Romans. Priscilla, whose name comes before her husband Aquila's. Junia, "outstanding among the apostles." Euodia and Syntyche, who contended at his side for the gospel.
A gifted church that was a mess
Corinth was a port city. Rich, busy, diverse, and wild. Paul says the church "did not lack any gift." It was also a mess. Fan clubs. Lawsuits. People getting drunk at the Lord's Supper.
And worship was chaos. Tongues over tongues. Prophets over prophets. Everybody wanted the mic.
Chapter 12 is about spiritual gifts. Chapter 13 is about love. Chapter 14 puts them together: how do you bring the gifts and love into a service?
"When you come together, each of you has a hymn, or a word of instruction, a revelation, a tongue or an interpretation. Everything must be done so that the church may be built up." (1 Corinthians 14:26)
Notice who he's talking to. Not just the men. The brothers and the sisters. Each of them has something to bring when the church gathers. Remember that, because Paul says it again at the end of the chapter: "Therefore, my brothers and sisters, be eager to prophesy" (14:39).
The same word, three times
Then Paul gives three groups the same instruction.
If someone speaks in a tongue and there's no one to interpret, "the speaker should keep quiet in the church" (14:28). If a revelation comes to someone sitting down, "the first speaker should stop" (14:30). In the Greek, that's the same word: silent.
Then 14:34. Women should remain silent.
Same words, same point. He's not saying any of these people should never talk in the church. There's a time to be quiet and there's a time to speak.
And just a few chapters earlier, Paul talks about women who pray and prophesy in church (11:5). He doesn't condemn it. So "silent" can't mean they could never say anything.
What it meant back then
There are about five views on what this meant to them. Where I land: there was disruptive talk and questions going on in their meetings, and Paul was putting everything in its proper order: those speaking in tongues, the prophets, and the questions.
Corinth was an honor-shame culture. A wife speaking directly to another man in public would have been seen as disgraceful. So Paul says, "If they want to inquire about something, they should ask their own husbands at home" (14:35).
I don't see that as a negative thing. In a culture that didn't care what women knew, Paul wanted them to learn.
"In a chaotic church, Paul told certain voices to hold back so the whole church could be built up."
What it means for us
When we're dealing with difficult texts, we don't start with that text. Your starting point always determines your ending point. So we start with what's clear.
Creation: God created mankind in his own image, male and female (Genesis 1:27). Redemption: in Christ there's neither Jew nor Greek, slave nor free, male nor female. We're all one in Christ Jesus.
From there, here's what we know. Ministry is shaped by gifting, not by gender. The Spirit was poured out on sons and daughters. If God has gifted somebody, who are we to say they can't use it?
Paul gave the church in Corinth instructions so the whole church could be built up. Here are four ways that applies to us.
1. Don't silence what God has gifted
At Cornerstone, women pray out loud, read Scripture, lead worship, lead life groups, teach our kids, and give messages on Sunday morning. They're not violating 1 Corinthians 14:34. They're fulfilling 14:26: each of you has a hymn, a word of instruction.
2. Check your own mouth
When we come together, there should be peace. People should learn. We should be encouraging one another. One of the ways that happens is by the words that come out of our mouths. When we're greeting people on Sunday or talking on Wednesday night, are we building people up?
3. Make room for everybody to learn
"Ask your husbands at home" fit an honor-shame culture. It isn't a requirement for us. We try to make our church a place where questions are welcome. In life group, throw out your question. Let's wrestle with it.
Culture does shape what Paul wrote. He told them, "Greet one another with a holy kiss." Nobody here wants to do that. If he was writing to us, he'd say greet each other with a handshake or a hug. The form changes, but the heart doesn't.
4. Worship should look like God
"God is not a God of disorder, but of peace" (14:33). Paul was bringing order to a church in chaos. Order is not the enemy of the Spirit. And chaos isn't proof of power. When we gather, it should be peaceful, it should be ordered, and it should build people up.
The gospel gives you a voice
Jesus went to the cross and stayed silent. "As a sheep before its shearers is silent, so he did not open his mouth" (Isaiah 53:7). If anybody could have said something, it was Jesus.
"The gospel doesn't silence you. The gospel gives you a voice."
God has gifted you, no doubt. You have talents and abilities that can help build up families in this church. Maybe that's joining the greeter team, helping in children's ministry, or serving at an outreach or event.
So here's the question for this week: What has God given me to bring to this church? And am I using it for his glory?
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